Coping with Imposter Syndrome

Coping with Imposter Syndrome

Have you ever suffered from Imposter Syndrome as a Psychic, Medium, or Empath?  I’m here to tell you you’re not alone and how to cope with it!  I cannot even begin to tell you how many times I have grappled with the statement “Are you a Psychic” at the beginning of my journey into working as a Psychic Medium. Don’t even get me started on the Medium title!

I remember clearly thinking “I wish people would stop calling me that” when clearly I am not like one of those shiny people in this exclusive league of elite insightful seers. I only ever saw myself as a great guesser and, in the early years allowed myself to rise to the handle of a mere intuitive. It was the easiest one for me to accept. Specifically, when I went public with my gifts. Because how else could I describe what I did for people? 

Lucky for me, it was my clients very early on that branded me a Psychic within the first week of going public. Let me tell you, did I ever feel like a fraud when they said that. I had my own reservations around psychics and had my own experiences with good and well let’s just say, some really awful ones! Coupled with my tv show mentors, Jackie Dennison from tv’s RESCUE MEDIUMS, and Allison Dubois from the show MEDIUM, who I felt were far superior to me and my gifts. I just could not accept the title. So being labeled that in the beginning, created a bit of internal struggle for me for sure.

Coming out of my spiritual closet was a big deal for me. I remember it so vividly as such an overwhelming and scary time in my life. As this was a time where I was transitioning between who I felt I was, and who I had allowed the public to see me as. In fact, I never really allowed anyone really to know the real me. This was half on purpose and the other half was part ignorance on my behalf. 

You see, for the longest time, I just assumed everyone else was just like me. In fact, when I started to recognize the obvious differences between me and others, I remember the relief I felt. Before that, I was convinced that people had conspired against me in some big cosmic conspiracy. It felt as if they were trying to pull the wool over my eyes.

I was convinced that everyone I was connected to knew more than what they were alluding to. What was blatantly obvious to me, my inner knowing, seemed to make others oblivious. I just could not understand how they didn’t see things the way I did. And to be honest usually to their own detriment. 

This made it very difficult for me to trust people because of my deluded awareness. Well, that and the fact that I could instantly tell when someone was being dishonest or not genuine. I remember shortly after my brother passed just how lit up I became psychically. Not to mention, it became my mission in life to understand exactly where he went when he died. It was a compulsion of mine, because what my church was offering me just didn’t make the cut for me!

Little did I know at the time, the addition of my emotional lack of confidence, and trauma wounds from my experiencing loss at such at the age of 10 made it very difficult to trust others. I can now see that I suffered what they call “Attachment Disorder”.  The obvious differences between me and those I was connected to started to become painfully obvious. I honestly felt like people thought I was this idiot. How could they think I didn’t see into their motives or obvious lies? Little did I realize that I was very different, and my traumas only exacerbated the whole getting to know and understand my gifts, and their potential until my mid 20’s.

Until then, I was floating around in my life just trying to figure out why I didn’t understand anyone’s motives. I was convinced or dare I, say paranoid that they knew they were deceiving me when in fact, they were not even aware of whatever it was I was judging them on. 

This was a huge challenge in the beginning of my journey in my 20’s. But overtime I realized my gift of insight gave me somewhat of a heads up, if you will, on those I connected with. And I soon discovered, it was not that they were out to get me, it was that everyone is just out for number 1, in other words themselves! This was an enormous lesson for me to learn.

Now this may differ from how you found yourself to where you are today, and that is simply because our soul lessons took different directions to get us to where we currently are in our lives. But the destination is ultimately the same, enlightenment, and if sharing my journey a bit helps even one soul, then this article will have done its duty. 

So now, let’s get onto why I felt the fraud energy or also known as the imposter syndrome. My journey into heightening my awareness had plenty of moments of complete balance. You know the feeling when everything is in sync and you feel grounded and relaxed the majority of the time?  But I soon became aware of the need for rapid growth when those moments were followed by drama, trauma, and other fun challenges that forced me to examine and use my gifts more often than not.  

Let’s examine what that would look like for me. Imagine one day you have 5 clients singing your praises and you feel totally connected and confident with your gifts and the very next day one person says everything you just told them was a load of b.s.  It could happen one or two times in a year, and even though you had thousands tell you “You nailed it”, that one person would shift your confidence. And that is where the seed of “Am I a fraud” germinates. 

You begin to question your very existence, and is it possible all those others that told you how amazing and accurate you were, were just saying that to be nice? Did they say that because they felt sorry for me? Were they making up the tears or the elation they felt when they were given validation from their loved ones? Do people do that in the thousands? 

The problem is that we tend to believe the 1 or 2 people rather than the masses. And I think this is by design to keep us humble. To remind us that this is a gift and that it is a precious one at that. And if you have a weak stomach it certainly gets toughened up doing this work or as I call it my calling!

One thing that I can always count on my spirit team to do when those “one off’s” happen, or when I feel like throwing in the towel on doing this work because of an overwhelming client that pulls at your heartstrings just a little too much. They send me an earth angel who reaches out from the void to randomly tell me how much I changed their life for the better! There is nothing more magical than divine timing as I see it. I hope this helps you to see that hanging in there, and sharing your gifts are worth far more than even you can imagine. 

Finally, I this sounds like you, and you are not sure how to shift this feeling, try the following because it really helps; first, get out of your own way, second, don’t keep your knowledge to yourself, third, don’t compare yourself to others, and fourth, whatever scares you , step into it!

Stay shiny folks!

My 2023 Predictions

My 2023 Predictions

Every year, I am asked by a local TV station to produce my list of predictions for the year ahead. The show usually airs in the first week of December and I often get a lot of positive feedback from it, so this year I decided to blog about it. Mostly so I can share it with a wider audience.

As a Psychic, it is one of the most vulnerable things one can do, to make your predictions public. But what I have come to learn over the years is that by keeping small and to myself, I do not serve anyone but myself. I will often research the insight I get. Mostly because sometimes it is far-fetched even for me to accept. I am always blown away by the evidence I discover along the way. There is also no rhyme or reason to what I home in on, it varies every year.

  • I keep seeing Kanye West or Ye as he is now known with a gun. I feel there is an unfortunate situation about to unfold there.
  • I am also concerned about Cher and Dolly Parton’s health.
  • There will be significant loss of life in older female musicians I see the number 3
World Climate
  • We will discover cellphones are one of the major links to the world heating up so rapidly. Those in power already know this but “minimize” it because the emissions are so low per phone, only 2 watts of radiation per phone. However, after researching this a little deeper, I have discovered that 90% of the world’s population now carries a cell phone. That is a significant amount of radiation omitted worldwide when you do the calculations. I also discovered that phones emit radiation even when they are turned off because they are always communicating with cell towers. The number I calculated is 15 billion watts of radiation daily. I came to this number after I googled how many people are in the world divided by 90%. If there are 7.837 Billion people in the world, 90% is still over 7 billion, then x 2 watts. The good news on this is that new technology will be implemented to thwart the radiation by the end of 2023 to help with this issue.
  • Canada’s northern ice shield becomes less frozen leaving us vulnerable in the north this will encourage a call to look at newer weapons and a new air base to protect our North.
  • Ice shield in the north and south pole continues to melt but a significant break in the arctic will have the world watching near Russia.
  • Large oil spill near the Arctic.
  • Volcanoes in Japan and Italy create chaos in those parts of the world.
  • Devastating storms in the Caribbean, Bahamas and Jamaica affected.
  • Mudslide in Venezuela near Caracas causing widespread mayhem.
  • Environmental tragedy feels like a chemical spill or leak around Manitoba toward Hudson’s Bay.
US Politics
  • USA – still don’t feel good about Biden finishing his term in office.
  • Trump will be charged and will see bars for things we are yet to even know about. He won’t be accepted as the GOP Candidate.
  • Kari Lake, the GOP running who just lost the Arizona race who had a white substance delivered via an envelope to her headquarters, will be found responsible for sending it to herself/staff to deflect her crude remarks about the attack on The House Speaker Nancy Pelosi’s husband.
  • In all, people will be tired of people being rude to others and this will no longer be tolerable in politics for 2023.  Trump will take things to an all-time low.
Canadian Politics
  • New light shed on past “Conservative government” roles in indigenous affairs concerning loss or missing women. They knew more and did less. This will create quite a stir and will encourage an early election in 2024.  We will learn of some people high up shutting things down knowing affecting the rights of the indigenous peoples.
  • Next federal election is called early by the end of 2023 to be held in 2024 in the same year Trudeau will leave his party as leader due to a minor scandal.
  • The Conservative leader Poilievre, gets a lot of unwanted attention near the end of the year, making him an unpopular choice due to his actions and past behaviors.
  • Both major parties will have new leadership.
Russian Conflict with Ukraine
  • Both sides gain and then lose ground, the winter is going to really hit the Ukrainians harder than expected. It will look as if all is lost for the Ukrainians, but they bounce back and as a result, Russians will take a heavy beating. This is a long war that will not end for years to come. But India and or Pakistan step in to support peace talks and become the heroes needed to calm the friction there.
  • Russia’s economy hits an all-time low around June!
  • Putin is at risk of being ousted in June and will suffer illness (possibly Covid or poisoning), but the world will think he is dead. He will reappear almost a month later.
Worldly Issues
  • North Korea continues posturing throughout 2023, China securely in bed with them and also Iran. It will become very apparent in 2023 where the line in the sand is drawn.
  • China faces world shunning as a result of their behavior towards North America. China to target USA and Canada to create trade chaos
  • UK to be hit with a hard-faced recession, one that affects children the most. There will be wide-spread poverty. This comes on the heels of a “2 or 3 days” power outage like the one experienced in North America in Aug of 2003. And like that power outage, the UK will experience it in August.
  • There will be a high level of shortages in food and household supplies. So, start stocking up on supplies and food in Jan & Feb. This is really a worldwide thing
  • This winter will be the worst for the children worldwide. Between Covid and RSV, I am gravely concerned for children of all ages. Covid returns with a vengeance in March around the full moon which is the 7th or 8th.  We will see numbers that 1 in 5 will be catching it, overwhelming the whole world again. However, there will not be any shutdowns and we will have to learn to live with it, like we do with the flu. Those who smoke will be the most affected as the new strain targets the lungs once again. So, quit now is my advice for those who smoke. The year 2023 will be the first with the least amount of people world-wide smoke cigarettes.
The Cure is Found
  • UV light will be the universal cure. Everywhere we go, will have HEPA filtration systems with UV lights.  But this will not be mandated. Those that don’t get on board will be shunned. I don’t see this fully operational in 2023 because humans are so slow to react. We are like a bunch of ostriches with our heads in the sand, hoping it will pass.

On a positive note, 2023 will usher in a revolutionary energy, intolerant of negative behavior as people have grown tired of this and we will also see this create a significant change in the way we do business. Expect an evolution in big industry!

If you have felt any of these changes coming please drop me a line. I am always curious how many others are getting these downloads.

Above all else, remember to stay shiny my friends!

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Is This Normal:  The Fears Lightworkers Face Part 2

Is This Normal: The Fears Lightworkers Face Part 2

In Part 2 of this series, we will look at some more challenges that are commonplace amongstour community lightworkers, and holisticpreneurs and how to remedy them!

In recapping Part 1, we discussed some of the challenges that myself and my close friends in the industry have experienced.  If you haven’t read it, you may want to reference to the “Is This Normal:  The Fears Lightworkers Face” article, where we discussed the following challenges faced by lightworkers:

  • I want to quit this work!
  • I don’t feel like I belong!
  • Did I upset my Spirit Team?
  • When will I become all knowing?

So, let’s dive right in and review more around the financial, social and emotional challenges and fears that we face!

I want to do this for a living, but I fear I won’t be supported financially!

So, just an “F.Y.I.” the exact same words, and or thoughts have been uttered by every holisticpreneur who came before you. We have all had to step into the challenge of trusting our spirit team to support us when it comes to earning enough money, or supporting our finances. It is a big ask to walk away from a career with benefits, jump blindly into a new career that is not a guaranteed hourly wage, or benefit package, not to mention walking away from a very nice retirement package. And yet, so many of us have done this based on our inner knowing and blind trust. It is a calling. And therefore, we do not feel we even have a choice in the matter. If your job is becoming so daunting that just walking into work makes you feel physically ill. Chances are you are being asked to take that same leap of faith the rest of us had to do and that you should just begin to trust that your spirit team has your back.

I have a lot of friends but none of them know each other and those who do, don’t really get along!

If this sounds familiar, chances are high that it has been a source of stress for you, that you can know and love these very different but same “energetically speaking” people, and yet they don’t ever seem to come together, or in some cases even get along with each other. If the feeling of “can’t we all just get along” crosses your mind often, trust me, I get it. This is another common challenge we have. This is for a reason though. Each person we connect with brings so much wisdom to our knowledge vault, that they have to be different from each other. Their backgrounds, their social status will all vary and for a very important reason. That reason is you and your life’s lessons. You are supposed to be on a knowledge-based trajectory in this lifetime. You won’t get that if you hang out with one cohesive group or posse. You are the odd man out for the very reason of gaining wisdom in this lifetime. Embrace the awareness each soul brings to the table for you. And release the scattered “Why can’t we all just get along? Vibe!” 

I have these unexplained pains or illness’s that the doctors can’t explain!

Believe it or not this is a very common challenge amongst lightworkers. It can be anything from phantom pains where you are energetically picking up on someone else’s illness or suffering. If your body is just constantly in pain, and the doctors cannot explain why, no matter what test they perform there is just no explanation for it. You may have been told at a young age that you had a stomach ulcer, only for that to have eventually corrected itself. Some common illnesses for lightworkers are, heart palpitations, fibromyalgia, thyroid issues, stomach pains, anything to do with your adrenals, inflammation and finally headaches and migraines just to name but a few.

As you can see, we cover a wide variety here, but if the doctor can’t pinpoint what the cause is, you may want to examine your grounding techniques and up the amount of time you’re doing this. Also meditation and journaling are great remedies for many of these symptoms, and finally drink, more water: staying hydrated is big problem for us. Think of it like every time we tune in energetically, we are conducting heat and heat evaporates water, if our body is 60% water and we are constantly conducting energy, we need to stay hydrated. And avoid sugar, we are mostly all addicted to this sweet substance whether it is chocolate or pop, it only exasperates our conditions.

Why do people always seem to take advantage of my kind nature?

As a lightworker, it is not unusual for us to feel compelled to support everyone around us. It is as if we think they will not survive the night if we don’t step in to save them from themselves. This urge to be “everyone’s everything” is very common amongst us. It is actually one of the biggest lessons we learn. And that lesson is to be your own lifeline before being someone else’s, and of course, that “free will” clause that every human comes with. That pesky little challenge that no matter what advice or direction you offer and know is best for that soul, that they have their own free will, and will follow whatever destiny their soul needs to follow, in order for them to learn what they need to in this lifetime. So, it can feel draining when people constantly seek you out for advice, only to ignore the wisdom you give them time and again, furthering to cause them more challenges in their lives. Don’t take it personally; it is their journey, it’s best to just share the advice and move on.

The moral of this article is to know that you are not unusual, and that these things that are happening to you, are actually happening for you! Stay grounded beauties, I plan to share a part #3 & #4 in this series with you soon!

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Is this Normal?  The Fears Lightworkers Face

Is this Normal? The Fears Lightworkers Face

Is this normal?  Has this happened to you?  Let’s be honest, as lightworkers, we have all faced certain fears which leaves us questioning what we’re doing working in this industry.  Having heard these questions from other lightworkers, I think back to the beginning of my career as a Psychic/Medium, and the fears and concerns that I had about the things I didn’t fully yet understand, and those could be daunting, overwhelming at best. What I came to understand over the years is they were to be par for the course in this industry. Most of these questions seem silly now, but at the time they were absolutely the opposite of silly. So, let’s dive into some of those queries now, to hopefully unburden some of your concerns:

I want to quit!!

Raise your hand if you have ever just wanted to quit or pack it in, in this line of work. Here is the thing about being everything for everyone, we lose sight of ourselves, the very opposite message you put out to others in our line of work. So, if you feel this sudden urge to quit, it is highly likely that you have fallen down a rabbit hole of putting yourself last and you are way overdue for a restart, but more importantly a break, to re-evaluate how to put yourself first again.

I don’t feel like I belong!

This lifestyle can be very alienating and overwhelming, and can also make us second guess ourselves and our own inner wisdom. The resulting outcome is lack of self-confidence, because we feel like we belong on a different island away from everyone else. We tend to feel this the most in our youth. This is very confusing to us when we see our peers falling easily into the multitude of groups that are before us and we just end up feeling like the odd man out. The point I am trying to get at here, is that this is normal for us as lightworkers, and trust me you will eventually meet your group as you begin to grow and meet others like you.

Did I upset my Spirit Team?

We have all experienced the first “NO” from a client, the one word we do not want to hear! We immediately take that “no” as a sign that we are broken. I am here to tell you there is not a psychic/medium on the planet that has not heard this feedback at some point in their career.

But there is also not a psychic/medium who has not reached deeper into their awareness to unlock the answers, to help their clients fully understand the message spirit is trying to convey. I used to think spirit was upset with me, or that they no longer thought I was worthy of doing this. It could not have been further from the truth. Spirit simply wanted me to unlock new ways of connecting or wanted me to challenge myself and unlock my potential. Trust is key when you get the no delve deeper with your spirit team. You will be glad you did!

When will I become all knowing?

We, as Lightworkers, tend to think there will come a point where we have figured it all out and life will become this blissful Nirvana. We repeatedly question; “Am I ever going to finally know it all?” or “When will I be All Knowing?” When we start out in this industry, we all strive to gain the wisdom and level of awareness that we assume others have, whom we look up too! After all, if we could just get to where they are, those who we deem successful, we could finally relax, business would be booming, and life would be so much easier! The reality of gaining wisdom and inner knowing is a lifelong pursuit. I can promise you my friends, the journey is a magical and highly addictive one. Once you embark on this journey of spiritual awareness there is no end to which you can achieve!

The Difference Between A Psychic, Medium and Clairvoyant

The Difference Between A Psychic, Medium and Clairvoyant

What’s the difference between a Psychic, Medium and Clairvoyant?  Are you looking for connection or spiritual guidance?  Are you looking for clarity on which service will best fit your needs?

When looking for answers that align with your goals, you will most likely come across Psychics, Mediums, and Clairvoyants — all offering spiritual services. I often hear from clients that they believe that all three specialties are synonymous, which is not really accurate! Although Psychics, Mediums, and Clairvoyants are all gifted with spiritual abilities, they have significant differences in what services they provide and what techniques they use.

What is a Psychic?

I like to say, “All Mediums are Psychic, but not all Psychics are Mediums”. Psychics use the energy and vibrations that surround them, as well as their own natural, or learned, intuition to tune into your past, present, and future. By doing so, a Psychic will then be able to convey any messages or insight that can provide clarity to any inquiries you may have about different aspects of your life! If you are searching for guidance on your path of life, a Psychic who is able to tune into you and your experiences, is the spiritual professional for you to connect with!

What is a Medium?

A Medium is a spiritual worker who is able to connect to your loved ones who have crossed over to the other side. Mediums are essentially the communication link between people who are present on earth and spirits. If you are in need of comfort or seeking any information that may have been left unsaid during your loved ones time on earth, a Medium will be able to provide the direct communication needed for you to feel more connected to your loved one who is no longer with you in the physical world.

What is a Clairvoyant?

Someone who identifies as a Clairvoyant uses the psychic abilities within them to visualize energy, generally using the third eye. What does this mean? A Clairvoyant views energy in forms of movement, colour, pictures, shadows, orbs and lights. So is a Clairvoyant and a Psychic the same? Close, but not exact. One of the psychic abilities is Clairvoyance, there are many ways to connect to energy as a psychic. A Clairvoyant is a title to describe a Psychic who is able to tune into energy through the visualizations mentioned above. As long as you practice and trust your ability, I feel anyone can learn to access their inner Clairvoyance!

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How to Keep Your Social Media Secure

How to Keep Your Social Media Secure

Social media security is important.  Most social platforms afford you the tools to be able to manage your business and to keep potential hackers and trolls at bay.  If you are a Page Owner on networks such as Facebook or Instagram, then you’ll understand the realities of this becoming a possibility. Here are some tips to help keep your social media accounts secure, stress and headache free!

Banning Users: When someone makes unwanted comments on your social media page, you can choose to ban a user which in turns removes the comments that they’ve made, eliminating issues quite quickly. Facebook groups are a little different in that the group’s administrator can choose to either send the offender a warning, suspension or remove them from the group completely. Make sure to check your settings to ensure that they are not able to rejoin the group after then been banned or removed.

Social Media Trolls: Trolls are a much bigger problem!  You’ll know if you have a troll when they have gone through the trouble of cloning your account or financially exploiting your clients by emailing them asking for money while posing as you or your business. Yes, it’s happened to me!  Freaky right?  It can be, but it’s best to remain calm and to report these activities.  Create a post asking your friends or followers to do the same may also be a good idea.  The more attention the situation gets, the more quickly it may be resolved.

Restrictions:  My experience with the trolls that had cloned my social media pages were from specific countries and when investigating further, I learned that some possessed hundreds of accounts.  I thought this would be a never ending issue until a friend who had had the same issue, suggested that I restrict the country in which my trolls lived which I found under the general settings of my page.  When you add restrictions, whether a country or an age restriction, only people who meet the requirements will be able to see your page, and anyone who likes your page, but doesn’t fit the requirements will be deleted.  You can update your restrictions at any time.  If no age or country restrictions are listed, your page will be visible to everyone.  A person who can’t see you page, cannot troll you!

Content Moderation:  If you own a page on Facebook, you can eliminate certain words from appearing on your page.  For instance, most will add keywords such as “fake”,  “charlatan”, or  “evil” to there Content Moderation list under General Settings.  There is also a Profanity Filter section below it where you can add keywords to that may be useful in keeping unwanted content on your page.  Make sure to review your General Settings on your account or go to your Facebook Help Section for more information.

Protecting Your Accounts: Hackers and trolls who like to wreak havoc on social media are part of our every day reality. If they gain access to your accounts, they can potentially cause you quite big headaches. If you’ve noticed some suspicious activity on your account, immediately log out of all locations under your personal account settings.  Then, enable your two factor authentication through all of your platforms.  It may be a little bit to get used to, but it will give you the extra layer of protection, and peace of mind!  I also encourage you to change your passwords often.

I hope that these tips from my very own experiences help you move forward to a stress free social media environment!  Do your research and if you have questions, make sure to look them up.  The more information you’re armed with, the more it will help you keep unwanted visitors joining your social networks.